Pity Party Time

This new year is already shaping up to be a doozy and we’re not even out of the first month yet.  I feel like I already need a break from worrying.

Big’s company has been doing some quiet layoffs.  The once a year, sometimes twice a year, re-org is happening.  Big is now finding himself in limbo wondering where exactly he will fit into this new round of musical chairs.  We’re not feeling as confident this time about the probability that he will definitely have a chair when the music stops.  So, far he has always come out for the better in each re-org that has happened but with the economy being what it is things are way more precarious this time around and it’s looking gloomier than ever.

To prepare for the chance that our one income household may be a no income household we’ve started trying to tighten our belts.  The first thing to go were the house cleaners.  It’s the quickest and easiest way for us to save money and one of those luxuries that is definitely not a necessity.  It was nice while it lasted but it was time to say good bye.

Next is the dining out or ordering takeout habit that I fell back on a little too often.  (Did I ever mention that grocery shopping and cooking are two of my least favorite chores?)  Now I need to start cutting back on the grocery bills.  We tend to buy too many snacks and high priced foods.  I am not one of those women that can tell you the price of things.  I’ve never had to worry about cost before.  But now I find myself price shopping and paying attention to what things cost.  I read an article about cutting your grocery bill by planning your meals around what’s on sale that week.  I love the concept but I will first have to start planning meals in advance and then actually start reading the circulars that come every Thursday in the mailbox.  We’ll see if I can actually pull this off.

Then there is the infertility thing.  After two rounds of Clomid and IUI we are still not pregnant.  My thirty-eighth birthday was January 13th.  As some of you may remember I once had this idea that if I was not pregnant by my thirty-eighth birthday that Shorty would be an only child.  Well, guess what?  I’m thirty-eight and not ready to call it a day yet.  So, Big and I are trying to figure out what to do about that.  Our insurance company has a $15,000 lifetime cap on fertility treatments.  Counting the go round with Shorty and this time we’ve gone through three rounds of Clomid and four IUIs.  So, our balance is less than $15,000.  We need to make sure that we leave enough for at least one IVF round if we need it and want to go through with it.

We took last cycle off and are taking this cycle off from all fertility drugs and procedures.  We’re thinking maybe one more try with Clomid and IUI then we need to make a decision about IVF, trying on our own, or calling it quits.  This is all weighing heavily on our shoulders.  We hate the drugs and procedures but we (maybe more me at this point) really want to try for one more child.  Meanwhile my clock is ticking louder each day.  And of course, we’re praying we don’t lose our insurance because then all bets could very well be off.

Then there is the whole being thirty-eight thing in and of itself.  I’m feeling old.  I have gained about 12 pounds since this summer and I have done nothing to help get it off.  I look like crap.  Every article of clothing I own is too tight and feels uncomfortable.  I feel like crap too and not just because I look bad.  My body aches.  I have zero energy.  I’m completely out of shape.

So, I’m feeling bad and it would seem that I’m throwing myself a poor me pity party.  I’m feeling stressed and a bit depressed.  It’s the reason for my lack of blogging and commenting on other’s blogs.  I have so much on my mind and I’m in a cranky mood.  Nothing I attempt to write is coming out the way I had hoped it would.  I’ve started several posts and I have left all of them unfinished.

I know things will eventually work themselves out and that I will feel better soon.  In the meantime, I am trying not to spread my crankiness, cynicism, and pity party attitude to everyone else I know both in the real world and in cyberspace.  Who knows maybe one of these days I’ll be telling you that I lost 15 pounds, starting exercising, won the lottery, and miraculously got pregnant.  Anything can happen, right?

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4 Responses to Pity Party Time

  1. Evenshine says:

    The tightening of the belt is happening everywhere, even in two-income households! I hear ya about the getting older, as well, and the extra poundage. It all kind of happens at once. The fertility thing is difficult, I know, but I’ll keep my fingers crossed- glad to hear you’re not giving up yet! (On a related note, thought about adoption?). Hang in there- get out and walk, clear your head. The darkest hour is always before the dawn, and all that…

  2. Kiirekass says:

    We’re all tightening the belt and keeping our fingers crossed for spouses and friends not to lose their jobs, but so the economic situation continues to spiral as we all live in fear. A friend’s husband just lost his job on Friday and we’re doing what you are doing, not eating out, pricing things at the grocery store and generally not buying much else. I still have my cleaning people for the time being, but unfortunately for them, they would be my next cutback if it comes to that. Hang in there and have faith that things will work out! That’s what I’m trying to do though it is very scary how our life could change.

  3. faemom says:

    I have something for you on my blog; I don;’t have time to read your post today, but I look forward to it tomorrow. 🙂

  4. I’ve found that the fear of what might happen with the job is incredibly strong. We’re doing the same things in my house as well, simply because there is a possibility of a big change. And we just don’t know. And we won’t. And as a control freak, that’s extremely difficult for me. The not knowing. And I’m sorry that ultimately the economy is having an affect on your family planning. That’s not fun. Just remember that 38 is not a deadline. And many of us are feeling pretty crappy this winter as well, at least I am. I was just thinking the other day while looking in the mirror, “wow, I really look like shit. And I feel like shit too.” So I guess just know that I hear you.

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